I’m going to tell you something radical.
Something you won’t believe at first, but if you embrace it, will be the single most important event in your life.
I can say this with complete confidence, because when I had this realization, everything in my life changed.
It was the catalyst that has fueled my entire personal, professional, and physical being.
And until I learned it, it was the hidden cause of most of my relationship discontent, weight issues and general sense of fear and loneliness.
What is this magical power move that changed it all for me?
I learned to love myself.
When We Don’t Love Ourselves, We Can’t Be Loved By Someone Else
When we don’t love and accept ourselves fully, we can’t ever have a great relationship or a happy life.
Our partner may whisper, “I love you so much” and we won’t believe them. We’ll always be looking for evidence that they are secretly losing interest.
Did they call us when they said they would? (If they didn’t, it’s because they don’t love us.)
Did they initiate sex, or cuddle like they used to, or hold our hands when we walked down the street? (They are losing interest. They’ve met someone else. I’m less desirable than I was ten years ago.)
We can’t tell them our secret feelings or fears, because it will push them away.
We feel like we “aren’t good enough” to date our crush, or we settle for someone who is “safe” or “fine” but who doesn’t make our heart leap with joy.
We don’t trust our partners (they aren’t telling the truth). We think they are cheating (where was she last night?)
We carry around the pain of never feeling good enough to have the kind of love other people experience. We doubt ourselves; we doubt our partners; we doubt love.
We let challenges demoralize and deflate us, and it’s not long before we realize we’re a much smaller version of ourselves. We won’t ask for a raise; we’ll stay in dead-end jobs.
We’ll lose weight and feel fatter than ever. We give up on our health, thinking it’s too hard or takes too much effort.
We’ll look for quick fixes to make ourselves feel better: a new haircut, a one night stand, a bottle of bourbon, a brownie sundae.
But none of these fixes fix us at all. They leave us feeling lonelier, emptier, sadder.
And we will remain that way until we stop looking for other people to give us the love and care we yearn for and deserve.
After all, why would someone else love us, if we don’t think we are worthy?
Loving Yourself Changes Your Life More Than Anything Else You Can Do
Here’s the thing about loving ourselves: until we do it, we don’t realize its power.
We think the reason for our unhappiness is “out there,” and we go around searching for someone, or something, to solve it for us.
We do whatever we can to avoid looking inward, because looking inward feels scary. It means acknowledging our sadness, remembering past hurts, facing our fears.
We reject self-love as the powerful, uplifting force in our lives it can be. We reduce it to the territory of “conceited people” or scoff at the ridiculousness of “positive affirmations.”
We take our credit cards, our four course meals, our barely-satisfying relationships, and we wrap ourselves in their protective cocoon… anything but acknowledging how we feel inside.
But we are wrong… so very wrong about what loving ourselves means, and how it feels.
Loving yourself means you don’t hide who you really are. You share your feelings – even the messy ones – and own up the truth of your life and your mistakes.
You don’t need to prove anything to anyone, because you know the only opinion that matters about your self-worth is your own.
You don’t accept bad treatment, or social pressure, or feel compelled to do things you don’t want to do just because you are “supposed to.”
You can fully accept and enjoy being loved by someone else. You aren’t doubtful of their feelings. You never worry if their love will end, or if you aren’t good enough, or unworthy.
You aren’t afraid of getting hurt. You don’t push love away, or run away, or subconsciously create reasons why your relationship will let you down.
You are at peace with yourself, and can channel your energy into CREATING what you want, not PROTECTING what you don’t want to lose.
You feel giddy, light… free.
A Controversial Hit From A Life-Altering Breakthrough
When I had my personal epiphany, everything changed. This breakthrough set the trajectory for the rest of my life, and it became my personal and professional mission to facilitate the breakthrough in others.
In fact, it is a single key state of mind from which mental, emotional, and even physical health flows.
You will go from feeling criticized to feeling accepted and loved, even if the other person in your life does NOTHING AT ALL to change their behavior.
It will stop the cycle of the negative thoughts, arguments and worries, so you can feel at peace and enjoy open, genuine relationships free of drama and tension.
In this powerful, comprehensive program you’ll learn:
How to identify the various points in your past where you learned that you were unlovable, and how to reverse the damage caused by both intentional or unintentional childhood trauma.
The underlying cause of “people pleasing” and how to reprogram your thoughts so you’re not automatically serving others’ needs at the expense of our your own peace and wellbeing.
10 powerful “attitudes” that have the power to set you free from prior negative conditioning.
How to make loving yourself completely effortless, no matter what you’re experiencing or feeling (even if it’s guilt, shame or self-hatred).
Why blaming others when things go wrong can actually stunt any good regard you have for yourself, and how to get out of the cycle of blame and helplessness for good.
Do you have a right to feel happy? Learn why we often put up barriers to feeling good, and how to allow yourself to experience bliss without guilt or constraint.
2 common mistakes you may be making when trying to improve your self-esteem and how shifting your belief can instantly elevate your mood.
The 4-step process you can do in less than 10 minutes that will allow you to flow in harmony with the stream of life, instead of feeling tension, resistance and anxiety.
The truth about guilt, and how to dissolve this debilitating emotion that stifles your creativity and your ability to express joy.
Do you often complain that you’re angry or mad at someone or something? Why anger is the most repetitive emotion and how to turn anger into positive energy for change.
The secret psychological reason you’re attracted to the partners you’re attracted to – and how knowing this can transform a “problem” relationship into an opportunity for true personal growth!
The 4 questions that can change everything in your relationship, especially when trouble arises.
Why forgiveness is often difficult and what you need to do FIRST for yourself before you can genuinely forgive another.
Learning to Love Yourself is Just A Few Clicks Away
Without question, learning to love yourself is rocket-fuel for your life, giving you an inner peace and acceptance that you never dreamed possible. It is, quite simply, the most important important skill you can learn.
by Gary Hendricks